Love And Submission ,The Magic of Marriage

Love And Submission 

" Husbands ,love your wives ,even as Christ also loved the Church ,and gave himself for it ." Ephesians 5:25 

In marriage there are two principal responsibilities for each of the married partner .The husband has the responsibility of loving the wife ,while the husband has the responsibility of submitting to the husband . The man has a God given responsibility to always show love to the wife ,by caring and taking care of her affectionately. According to the opening scripture the husband has to love the wife the way Christ loved the Church and gave himself to God as an offering for the church .

In loving the Church the husband has to sacrifice a lot for the wife ." So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies .He that loveth his wife loveth himself ." Ephesians 5:28 In this scripture ,loving your wife is a sign that you love yourself, because your wife is your flesh and bones .To love and care for the woman is the sole work of the man, while to submit and serve the man is the sole work of the woman .

The woman must do the work of submission in her marriage which includes ,serving the husband ( washing, cooking and doing all the household chores ) as well as receiving instructions from the husband and obeying him as he gives commands in the home ." Likewise ,ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands; that if any obey not the word ,they also may without the word be won by the conversation of their wives ; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear ." 1 Peter 3:1-2

Fear here in this context is reverence for your husband as a woman . In submission the woman must know how to answer her husband softly and not rudely .Peter used the word " Subjection " to explain the nature of  submission in marriage   required from the woman for her husband according to God's standard. The husband here assumes the position of a king ,while the wife is his subject .

God himself told Eve the first wife amongst women "...thy desire shall be to thy husband ,and he shall rule over thee ." Genesis 3: 16 .This scripture made it clear that husband even controls the desire of the woman in her matrimonial home .An example is also given about Sarah ,Abraham's wife ," Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham ,calling him Lord , whose daughters ye are ,as long as  ye do well ,and are not afraid with any amazement " 1 Peter 3:6

Submission is the key for the woman in her marriage ,if she wants a lasting marriage . " For after this manner in the old time ,the holy women also who trusted in God ,adorned themselves ,being in subjection unto their own husbands ." 1 Peter 3:5 love is the key for any man to keep his marriage going perpetually.

Guidelines You Need To Observe When Choosing A Spouse

Choosing A Spouse 

" Nevertheless, to avoid fornication ,let every man have his own wife ,and let every woman have her own husband ." 1 Corinthians 7:2

It is very important that as a man matures ,he chooses the woman that he will spend the rest of his life with. It is the same thing with the woman ,who reaches adulthood  to choose or accept the man she would 

like to call her husband .God knows that as flesh and blood ,we have feelings that are sexually inclined ,that is why the opening scripture counsels us to choose a wife or husband as a remedy for the life of fornication to be avoided .

Every child of God who wants to live the victorious Christian life must choose a spouse .The man must choose a  woman who will make you fulfilled in your life. In the same way the woman must choose a man that  will make her live a fulfilled life in this world . The fact is marriage is for fulfilment and not just enjoyment .

choice of  a life partner must be done with precision and prayerfully .You need someone who will be an equal yoke with you ,so as to avoid unequal yoke . " For what communion hath righteousness with unrighteousness ? And what communion hath light with darkness ? 2 Corinthians 6:14 Before you choose right ,you need to know who you are and what you want in life .This is important ,because your partner can make or unmake you ,he or she can do or undo your progress .

An equal yoke is what makes marriages a success ; this means both are in the light and not darkness ,both  aim at living in righteousness .Both are Christians or share the same faith ,they have one goal and are ready to walk and work together for the achievement of their dreams .Choose someone who value you and sees you as the best for him 

The following principles must guide you to choose the a rightful partner .

1.choose someone who loves you not someone who you know doesn't love you ,but is probably marrying you because of your money or something he or she stands to gain .

2.choose someone who believes in you ,that you are good and that you will make it in life ; this will help the person to stick close to you no matter what happens .

3.Choose a partner base on your own observation and not on someone's recommendation, because when you discover something you don't like about the person you may feel disappointed .

4.Marry someone who is ready to introduce you to the whole world that you are his wife or her husband proudly ,without ill feelings .

5.Marry someone you chose by yourself ,not someone chosen by your parents or relatives ,because you might not love the person in marriage .

6.Marry someone you know in person ,not just by phone ,Facebook or a person staying in abroad without  you knowing or meeting them face to face .

7.Marry in presence  not in absential ; like those in abroad who send relatives to come and pay your dowry ,when you have never met them personally .This type of marriage is common in Africa where a total stranger sends family members to marry off the woman .You might discover things about the person that can put you off in marriage .

8. Study the man or woman for at least three months or more ,before choosing him or her to be your partner .This is important because appearances can be very deceptive .

9.Don't let any deformity ,handicap ,disability ,or imperfection in the person discourage you ,if only you love the person .Love is a powerful antidote that can heal and fill in all the pit holes ."Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing ,and obtaineth favour of the Lord ." Proverbs 18:22 

It is imperative ,that you choose a spouse ,because after the choice is made God will give you favour in marriage and in life ; every thing you do will be favourable in this world

The Areas Of Compatibility For Singles Who Are Searching

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"And they were both naked,the man and his wife and were not ashamed " Genesis 2:25

Compatibility is having things in common ,that keeps the two of you glued together .For instance the opening scripture States that Adam and Eve had something in common ,they were both naked ,that is one area of compatibility ,secondly they were not ashamed ; this is another area of compatibility. There are however ,other areas of compatibility; they were flesh and blood and they were both human beings.

Adam said Eve is " bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh." Genesis 2:23 What God desires and creates in marriage is the fact that the couple must be compatible in almost every thing they do ,like and say .The following are  areas of compatibility that are very necessary for the adherence of the couple.

1.They should both be in the same religious faith ;this includes attending the same church or religious institution if possible.

2.They must have the same political interest ;this includes being in the same political party.

3.They must like the same kind of food and drinks ; eating and drinking together helps couples to be united in enjoyment.

4.Both of them should share the same interest in the word of God and prayer .

5.They should both share the same interest even in TV shows and programs watching movies ,films, documentaries, news and religious TV programs together ,keep the couple in the bond of love and friendship that is not easy to be broken.

6.A nonsmoker should not marry a smoker .

7.A nonalcoholic should not marry an alcoholic person.

8.Both must live on common philosophy of life ,or principles in their thought pattern, so they will not be augmentative  to each other .

9.Both should have keen interest in the same professions ,for themselves and for their children.

10.Both should have a common language they can best communicate to each other .

11.Both should have interest in having and raising children ; This is important because if one of them doesn't want to have children or raise children ,it will more likely breed a strive in the marriage .

12.It is good if both couple are sociable ,because if one is so friendly ,always socializing and the other is not sociable, it will bring jealousy and chaos in the marriage.

13,It is also good if both are educated enough to bridge the gap of illiteracy. This helps to avoid unnecessary argument in current affairs and other matters of interest .It also help them to flow in the same wavelength of communication and understanding.

The Answer Of Money

" A feast is prepared for laughter and wine makes merry, but money answers all things. " Ecclessiastics 10,19 

There is a need for us to know that the Lord wants us to have money, so that it can be used to meet some material demands. It is therefore necessary for us to do something that will yield physical cash into our lives all the time. Even though money has a limit to which it can help us, because there are some serious problems it will take divine intervention for us to overcome. 

For instance Peter told Simon the witch doctor, " ...thy money perish with thee ,because thy house hast thought that the gift of God may be purchased with money. " Acts 8:20 There are some things money cannot buy from God, yet the  fact still remains that money answers only material things and not the spiritual things. God also wants us to have the money so that we can give some for the work of God. On several occasions we see God's children in the holy scriptures giving out their money for the work of God. 

" And thou shalt take the atonement money of the children of Isreal, and shalt appoint it for the service of the  tabernacle of the congregation ... " Exodus 30:16 Here money was used as the atonement for their souls, but in the New Testament it is the blood of Jesus Christ that redeems our souls. " Forasmuch as ye know that ye were not redeemed with corruptible things, as silver and gold, from your vain conversation received by tradition from your fathers.  But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot. " 1 Peter 1:18-19 

The position of money in the house of God is for only material usage and purpose, but it cannot save our souls. God however wants us to have this  money so we can use it to do things to glorify God in material things. " Ye shall buy meat of them for money, that ye may eat ,and ye shall also buy water of them for money, that ye may drink. " Deuteronomy 2:6 God instructed the children of Isreal to use their money to buy food and water from the neighbouring countries ,the position of money is sure here, God uses money to answer some material things we need as children of God, that is why God will always bless us with money. 

The Principle of Righteousness

The Principle Of Righteousness 

" Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin is a reproach to any people. " Proverbs 14:34

Righteousness is the way of Christ for us to obtain godly riches. To be righteous means to have the righteousness of Christ functioning in your life. This means you do the right thing in the sightof God all the time by obeying the word of God. God rewards righteousness in due time, we can be right and do the right thing and at the right time God will bless your works and that is what will bring the godly riches. 

" And let us not be weary in well doing, for in due season we shall Reap ,if we faint not " Galatians 6 :9 Righteousness is the principle of doing the right thing all the time. Doing the right business with the right time. The principle of righteousness demands that you don't cheat ,steal, lie, dupe, kill,fraud etc.in your business transactions. You have to do business God's way ,don't be dubious in business deals, because you want to be rich .

Jesus said, "...He that is righteous, let him be righteous still, and he that is holy ,let him be holy still. And behold, let come quickly;  and my reward is with me ,to give every man according as his work shall be. ” Revelation 22 : 11-12 God expects us to serve him faithfully and make sure we are not fraudulent in our business and financial lives .The word of God warns us against ungodly riches in the following scripture.

" Your gold and silver is cankered and the rust of them shall be a witness against you and shall eat your flesh as it were fire .Ye have heaped treasure together for the last days. Behold the hire of your labourers who have reaped down your fields,of  which you kept back by fraud, crieth and their cries of them which have reaped are entered into the ears of  the Lord of sabaoth. " James 5:3-4

These are rich people who use all forms of fraudulent and dubious means to get their wealth. They don't even pay their workers well ,instead use their wages as part of their business capital. These riches are corrupted  (James 5 :2) because they are not gotten by the principle of righteousness and they bring eternal damnation  ( James 5:1)  

Godly Riches For Godly Vision

Godly Riches For Godly Vision 

" For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie : though it tarry, wait for it ; because it will surely come, it will not tarry. " Habakkuk 2:3

God gives his children godly riches because of a godly vision that has to be accomplished. The Lord has a mission for us in his kingdom, and most at times this mission depends so much on money. That is the more reason God gives his children these godly riches so that God can use them to accomplish a mission of a godly vision. There are so many visions, dreams and purposesof God for his beloved children to accomplish, and that is the reason why godly riches are necessary. 

For instance God had a vision for Abraham to be a father of  many nations;  that is to say he will be a blessing to so many people, tongues and tribes so God had to enrich him for that purpose. " And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee and make thy name great, and thou shalt be a blessing. And I will bless them that bless thee ,and curse him that curseth thee : and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed. " Genesis 12 : 2-3 

The vision is for Abraham to be a blessing for all the families of the earth ,so God blessed him to that effect. So godly riches are usually meant for the purpose of accomplishing a godly a vision. There are some that God will enrich so that they will build God's church, promote the kingdom of God with their money, others are specially enriched by God so they can give generously to ministers of the gospel, so that God's work will spread far and abroad. 

The following portion of scripture explains how godly riches are meant to promote godly vision. " Being enriched in every thing to all bountifulness, which causeth through us thanksgiving to God. For the administration of this service not only supplieth the want of the saints, but is abundant also by many thanksgiving unto God. Whilst by the experiment of this ministration they glorify God for your professed subjection unto the gospel of Christ ,and for your liberal distribution unto them, and unto all men ." 2 Corinthians 9 : 11 -13 The kingdom of God needs money for its expansion , promotion and propagation of the gospel of Christ. 

Godly Riches For Godly Vision 

" For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie : though it tarry, wait for it ; because it will surely come, it will not tarry. " Habakkuk 2:3

God gives his children godly riches because of a godly vision that has to be accomplished. The Lord has a mission for us in his kingdom, and most at times this mission depends so much on money. That is the more reason God gives his children these godly riches so that God can use them to accomplish a mission of a godly vision. There are so many visions, dreams and purposesof God for his beloved children to accomplish, and that is the reason why godly riches are necessary. 

For instance God had a vision for Abraham to be a father of  many nations;  that is to say he will be a blessing to so many people, tongues and tribes so God had to enrich him for that purpose. " And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee and make thy name great, and thou shalt be a blessing. And I will bless them that bless thee ,and curse him that curseth thee : and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed. " Genesis 12 : 2-3 

The vision is for Abraham to be a blessing for all the families of the earth ,so God blessed him to that effect. So godly riches are usually meant for the purpose of accomplishing a godly a vision. There are some that God will enrich so that they will build God's church, promote the kingdom of God with their money, others are specially enriched by God so they can give generously to ministers of the gospel, so that God's work will spread far and abroad. 

The following portion of scripture explains how godly riches are meant to promote godly vision. " Being enriched in every thing to all bountifulness, which causeth through us thanksgiving to God. For the administration of this service not only supplieth the want of the saints, but is abundant also by many thanksgiving unto God. Whilst by the experiment of this ministration they glorify God for your professed subjection unto the gospel of Christ ,and for your liberal distribution unto them, and unto all men ." 2 Corinthians 9 : 11 -13 The kingdom of God needs money for its expansion , promotion and propagation of the gospel of Christ. 

Seek First The kingdom

 

" But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness ; and all other things shall be added unto you. " Matthew 6 : 33 

Seeking first the kingdom of God is the priority of God, the righteousnessof the kingdom must be seen in us all the time. Seeking first the kingdom is a matter of searching to know the truth and the reality of God's kingdom and the benefits we can derived from it .In seeking the righteousness, it requires for us to know God ,so that we can actually do the will of God. 

Jesus talks about the blessedness of those who seek the righteous requirements of God for their lives. " Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they shall be filled. " Matthew 5:6 The desireto know God more and serve him all the  time is what God wants us to aspire to. Thinking about the kingdom more helps us to overcome unnecessary and anxiety of what tomorrow holds for us .

Jesus said, "Therefore take no thought saying, what shall we eat ?  Or what shall we drink ? Or wherewithal shall we be clothed. ( For after all these things do the Gentiles seek ) for your heavenly father knoweth that ye have in need of these things. " Matthew 6: 31-32

The concentration of our mind and thoughts has to be on the kingdom of righteousness more than on the material things we so much desire to have. Thinking and praying about how to serve God well, how to overcome the world of sin ,how to overcome temptations, how to please God all the time ought to be our greatest desire.

God will eventually add all the other things we need from him into our lives daily. The Lord desires that we will be heavenly minded and kingdom focused all the time ." If ye then be risen with Christ ,seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above.,and not on things on the  earth. " Colossians 3 : 1-2

The heavenly things must always take precedence over the material things and then God will also add all the other material ,physical and substantial blessings into our lives. God gives godly riches to those who seek first the kingdom of God in everything, In all things let God be first, then business, marriage and finances would be added.