Guidelines You Need To Observe When Choosing A Spouse

Choosing A Spouse 

" Nevertheless, to avoid fornication ,let every man have his own wife ,and let every woman have her own husband ." 1 Corinthians 7:2

It is very important that as a man matures ,he chooses the woman that he will spend the rest of his life with. It is the same thing with the woman ,who reaches adulthood  to choose or accept the man she would 

like to call her husband .God knows that as flesh and blood ,we have feelings that are sexually inclined ,that is why the opening scripture counsels us to choose a wife or husband as a remedy for the life of fornication to be avoided .

Every child of God who wants to live the victorious Christian life must choose a spouse .The man must choose a  woman who will make you fulfilled in your life. In the same way the woman must choose a man that  will make her live a fulfilled life in this world . The fact is marriage is for fulfilment and not just enjoyment .

choice of  a life partner must be done with precision and prayerfully .You need someone who will be an equal yoke with you ,so as to avoid unequal yoke . " For what communion hath righteousness with unrighteousness ? And what communion hath light with darkness ? 2 Corinthians 6:14 Before you choose right ,you need to know who you are and what you want in life .This is important ,because your partner can make or unmake you ,he or she can do or undo your progress .

An equal yoke is what makes marriages a success ; this means both are in the light and not darkness ,both  aim at living in righteousness .Both are Christians or share the same faith ,they have one goal and are ready to walk and work together for the achievement of their dreams .Choose someone who value you and sees you as the best for him 

The following principles must guide you to choose the a rightful partner .

1.choose someone who loves you not someone who you know doesn't love you ,but is probably marrying you because of your money or something he or she stands to gain .

2.choose someone who believes in you ,that you are good and that you will make it in life ; this will help the person to stick close to you no matter what happens .

3.Choose a partner base on your own observation and not on someone's recommendation, because when you discover something you don't like about the person you may feel disappointed .

4.Marry someone who is ready to introduce you to the whole world that you are his wife or her husband proudly ,without ill feelings .

5.Marry someone you chose by yourself ,not someone chosen by your parents or relatives ,because you might not love the person in marriage .

6.Marry someone you know in person ,not just by phone ,Facebook or a person staying in abroad without  you knowing or meeting them face to face .

7.Marry in presence  not in absential ; like those in abroad who send relatives to come and pay your dowry ,when you have never met them personally .This type of marriage is common in Africa where a total stranger sends family members to marry off the woman .You might discover things about the person that can put you off in marriage .

8. Study the man or woman for at least three months or more ,before choosing him or her to be your partner .This is important because appearances can be very deceptive .

9.Don't let any deformity ,handicap ,disability ,or imperfection in the person discourage you ,if only you love the person .Love is a powerful antidote that can heal and fill in all the pit holes ."Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing ,and obtaineth favour of the Lord ." Proverbs 18:22 

It is imperative ,that you choose a spouse ,because after the choice is made God will give you favour in marriage and in life ; every thing you do will be favourable in this world