The Male And Female Marriage

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Male And Female

"So God created man in his own image ,in the image of God created  he him ; male and female created he them ." Matthew 1: 27

Marriage is something made specifically for male  and female and nothing should change that .Today we live in a society where people feel like changing God's devine ordinance of marriage of the male and female . In some countries laws been enacted to endorse marriage of same-sex ; that is lesbian and homosexuals who marry . 

This is typically against the  word of God , " If a man also lie with man kind ,as he lie with a woman , both of them have committed an abomination : they shall surely be put to death ; their blood shall be upon them ." Leviticus 20:13 The fact is it is an abominable  thing for humans to marry  contrary to God's ordinance; which is  a union of the male and female .

In the light of scripture we need to accept the  standard of God for  the marriage . And one of the foremost standard of marriage is that it is the joining together of male and female .We need to know  that  God's judgment awiats all those male  and male or female  female marriages commonly know as gay marriage .

God made the male to function categorically as the man and the head in the marriage  who  decisively chooses and marries a female who is the woman  in the marriage .God's wisdom of marriage is already established in the word of God and it is the joining together of male and female .It is the only matrimony that is solomonize and blessed  in the word of God .

"And God blessed them ,and said unto them  ,be fruitful and multiply ,and replenish the earth ,and subdue it ..." Genesis 1:28 Male and female is what God blessed as marriage for fruitfulness and multiplication.

The Perfect Couple

Perfect Couple

" Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman ,neither the woman without the man ,in the Lord ." 1 Corinthians 11:11

The perfect couple is not a physical reality, but it is a spiritual reality. The reason is that  there is no such thing as perfect couple, but whenever you notice some perfection in a couple ,it means either both or one of them has been tolerating the mishaps or misconduct of the other or each other. 

One of them especially the woman might be very tolerant for you to think that they are very good couple, You hardly hear them quarrel, you always see them together doing things in common. At times you  could see that one party is openly defending the other although he had committed a trespass.

 

Perfect couples learn to settle their disputes by themselves instead of involving a third party. So you hardly hear their disputes, they put up smiles in front of outsiders, to cover up their differences. They can wear a uniform dress for all public occasions. They are considerate to each other's weakness and they don't speak out their spouse weakness to other people, instead they cover up for each other.

 

When the woman is truely submissive and allow the husband to be fully her head, there will be perfection. Also when the man truelly show love and affection to the wife there could be perfection ."Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband. "1 Corinthians 7:3 It is the corporate behaviour of the two (male and female ) that makes a perfect couple.

Marriage Is The Most Honourable

The Most Honourable

" Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undelivered ; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge ." Hebrews 13:4

The opening scripture declares that marriage is the most honourable thing on earth .If there is any thing thought of as praise worthy ,it has to be marriage .God ordained marriage to be honoured above every other thing ,more so because it is the first institution of God in the life of the human being.

Any one who despises marriage despises the work of God .God wants every body to esteem marriage highly and respect the matrimonial bed so as not to abuse marital rights .The bed is unde Hospijfiled ,it is so pure and holy and extremely honoured by God .When dealing with marriage matters we need to respect and honour any decision that promotes marriage .

This means you have to honour your wife ,the woman you have married and respect her opinions above family members .In the same way you have to honour 

your husband above every one else and respect him most dearly as you submit and obey him in everything that he says .

" Likewise ,ye husbands ,dwell with them according to know knowledge ,giving honour unto the wife ,as unto the weaker vessel, and as being her together of the grace of life ;that your prayers be not hindered." 2 Peter 3:7 The husband has to honour the marriage ,and its vows and responsibilities toward the wife. Some divorce their wives when children are not forthcoming ; when the fruit of the womb is delayed .

The issue here is that God wants us to value the matrimonial family above our needs and wants .It is true that every marriage is meant for procreation ,but it is most important to honour the marriage first .That is what made Abraham to stick to Sarah for years although there was no child .We need to understand that " children are an inheritance of the Lord ,and the fruit of the womb is his reward ." psalm 127:3

It is God's responsibility to give children to the married couple ,but it is the responsibility of of the marriage partners to honour their marriage .There are also some who honour their job more than their marriage ;this means they could be busy with their job at the expense of their marriage .This means they don't fulfill their marital obligation because they are busy at work .It is good to work for a living ,but make sure ,you create time to honour your marriage ,by spending quality time with your wife and children .

You need a time table that has a place for your wife or husband ,no matter your profession ( pastor, doctor, nurse ,pilot ,businessman ,president, lawyer ,teacher ,seaman etc.) Some leave marriages to chance ,this means they don't create time purposely to honour and be with their spouse. They only come around their spouse when they have time.

Some are married ,but their extended family has their attention more than their wives ; they listen to their relatives more than to their spouse ,this means you don't honour your marriage; it is time to see your marriage as most honourable.

Types of Marriage Ceremony

Marriage Ceremony

"Who can find a virtuous woman ? for her price is far above rubbies ." Proverbs 31:10

Marriage is one thing and the marriage ceremony is also another thing altogether .Marriage is the actual life style of the couple living together as husband and wife who are one flesh .While ceremony is the initiation rites that is performed to introduce the two ( male and female) into solimonization of matrimony known as marriage .

This means without the ceremony is not yet a marriage ,it doesn't matter how much children you have .The marriage is where the families of the man and woman come together to agree that their daughter and son are being united as on flesh .Marriage is no marriage if the two families of both couple do not come together to initiate the union of their son and daughter.

The Bride Price

Usually the bride price is paid during the ceremony ;this is the token that the woman's family demands before letting out the daughter in marriage .The bride price also know as dowry is a demand by the family ,that must be met by the man's family ." If a man seduces a virgin not betrothed and lies with her ,he shall surely pay a dowry for her to become his wife." Exodus 22:16

In the aforementioned scripture ,we realized that marriage is not genuine until a dowry has been paid to family of the bride ." Ask me ever so much dowry and (marriage ) gift and I will give according to what you tell me ; only give me the girl to be my wife " Genesis 34:12 This is what Shechem ,the Prince told Jacob ,because he wanted to marry his daughter Dina .

In biblical days marriage ceremonies where held in family houses and not in the temple like our days .These marriage ceremonies where usually held in the woman's family house and it was also known as wedding .For instance Jesus attended a wedding at Cana of Galilee and it was not inside the synagogue (temple) " On the third day there was a wedding at Cana of Galilee ,and the mother of Jesus was there .Jesus also was invited with his disciples to the wedding " John 2:1-2

Examples of bride price items on display during marriage ceremony 

Blessing

Blessing is the Christian way of approaching the marriage ,where the couple are presented in church and are prayed for and also exchange vows before the people. Although this can also be done at the day the dowry is been paid ,provided there is a pastor present to pray for the couple and lead them to exchange the marital vows .

Blessing is done on purpose to dedicate the marriage to God .To ensure the blessings of God ,the protection and provision of God in the marriage.

Examples of marriage ceremonies 

White Wedding

White Wedding is the modern version ,it is properly known as wedding .It is embodied in the culture of the whites ,where rings are used as symbols of marriage and seal of vows made by couples. Nowadays ,people also use rings when paying dowry ,they present the rings as well, which is usually worn by the couple in the presence of  family members .

Wedding gowns are worn ,with veils to cover the bride , and the bridegroom is required to put on political suites of any colour ,but the wedding gown is usually white .Vehicles are decorated for the newly wedded couple ,and there are usually bride's maid ,and also a best man who follows the bridegroom ,flower girls and page boys accompany the couple .The white wedding is not scriptural ,it is only a fashionable type of marriage that people usually prefer  just to attract attention and for their personal convenience.

Examples of  white wedding 

                       Mass wedding 

                     Mass wedding 

 

Court Wedding

This is also another marriage ceremony ,that is usually officiated by court or registry officials ,who prepared marriage certificate for the couple to sign documents and their witness will sign along with them .This kind can be with only the two (male and female) present and court officials ,who sometimes act as witnesses ,but in some cases there may be friends or relatives to act as witnesses for the couple. In this type of marriage ceremony there are no requirements of bride price or family presence ( although in some cases ,there could be families), only the court will legalized their marriage.

However, the most recommended marriages depend on the particular cultures of the couple .At times their religion or Christian life also determines the type of ceremony they opt for.

Examples of Court  Wedding 

Wedding Reception 

This is where guests of the newly wedded  couple are entertained by the marriage couple. The guest usually are friends and relatives who are invited for tour witness this special union of  the male and female. They are served with food and drinks prepared by the family of one or both couple 

Examples of  Wedding Reception 

Divorce And Separation Is Not The Will of God

Divorce And Separation 

""...What therefore God has joined together ,let not man put asunder ." Matthew 19:6 

This is one of the topics that so many cannot discern the will of God for . God designed marriage to last forever till death separate the two . However, because of human failure to adhere to marriage principles the consequence is either separation or divorce .Nowadays ,people think they can easily divorce when things get out of control .So the Jews in Bible days asked Jesus " ...Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause ? " Matthew 19:3 

There are so many reasons and causes of divorce or separation .But the only reason Jesus gave as an acceptable and justifiable one to bring divorce is when the wife is committing adultery ; sleeping with another man besides her husband ." And I say unto you ,whosoever shall put away his wife ,except it be for 

fornication ,and shall marry another ,committeth adultery ,whosoever  marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery ." Matthew 19:9

Fornication is the only cause of divorce permitted by our Lord Jesus Christ .That is why it is very important that the married woman would stay so pure by her husband ,because any sexual relationship outside marriage is a route to divorce ." Marriage is honourable in all ,and the bed undefiled : but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge ." Hebrews 13: 4 Not only will adultery bring divorce ,it also brings the judgment of God and the punishment thereof .

Nowadays ,people divorce not only on the bases of adultery ,but also for the hardness of heart .There are a lot of people divorcing because of their heart ,that is unloving heart .The stubborn type that is  not considerate enough to overlook human weakness and cannot withstand times of crises .Like in the days of Moses , the law permitted divorce because ,the people had hardened heart that could not tolerate each other in marriage .

" They say unto him ,(Jesus) why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement ,and to put her away : He saith unto them ,Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives ; but from the beginning it was not so." Matthew 19:7-8 God originally joined the man and his wife together forever ,the purpose was that there should be no divorce ,separation nor putting away .But when their heart were hardened against the will of God ,He now permitted human beings to divorce by a written letter to the woman to the woman's family and this letter was called " Letter of divorcement."

"...The Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth ,against whom thou hast dealt treacherously : yet is she thy companion and the wife of thy youth ,And did not he make one ? Yet had he the residue of the spirit .Wherefore one ? that he might seek a godly seed .Therefore take heed to your spirit ,and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth .For the Lord ,the God of Isreal ,saith that he hateth putting away (divorce)..." Malachi 2:14-17 

The truth is that God who is the only bonafide witness of the union of male and female as married couples from the beginning , forever says in his word that he "hates divorce " .God's plan for marriage is to make the woman a companion forever to the man. Your wife must be your best friend as married man ,likewise the woman who is married ,your husband must be your best friend, so that there should be no divorce .

The Two Become One Flesh In Marriage

One Flesh 

"Wherefore they are no more twaine ,but one flesh ,what therefore God hath joined together ,let not man put asunder ." Matthew 19:6 

God created the man and the woman  as one flesh and that must be settled in our mind, if we must marry according to God's original design of marriage . It must be accepted that  through marriage the man and his wife are one flesh and not two . " And  said ,for this caused  shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife : and they shall be one flesh ,? " Matthew 19:5 

Being one flesh means. they are one in soul ,one in flesh and one in bones . That is why Adam called his wife woman ."And Adam said ,this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh ,she shall be called woman ,because she was taken out  of the man ." Genesis 2: 23  They have to live together in one room ,and all the time under one roof . 

There are some marriages  that end up on the rocks of divorce ,because. there is no oneness  in their life style .They live in separate homes or rooms ,at times in separate countries . And as a result extramarital affairs becomes their lot , either  one or both of them begin to indulge in adultery.Marriage couples should not be separated for long unless is absolutely necessary.

They must stay together in the same house ,in the same room and most importantly sleep on the same bed .Their decision must be cohesive so as to bring oneness that will forever adhere the two in one flesh . Marriage brings together two people that have one soul ,that is why  your husband or wife is also described as soulmate . The marriage couple must operate as one flesh ,having the same opinion ,same views ,same vision ,same desires and most importantly the same religious faith .

"Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman ,neither the the woman without the man ,in the Lord . " 1 Corinthians 11:11 This means they are one  in the Lord ,that is why they are perfectly called Mr.  and Mrs. .Their flesh is also cooperatively owned ." The wife  hath not power of her own body ,but the husband  : and likewise also  the husband also hath not power of his own body ,but the wife ." 1 Corinthians 7:4

The two must accept that they are a corporate entity and not individuals . That is the only way they can function as marriage couple for the longevity of their marriage ..They mostly pray together ,eat together ,travel together ,plan together ,walk together and most importantly worship together in the same church .

The Head In The Marriage

The Head

 

" For the husband is the head of the wife ,even Christ is the head of the church : and saviour of the body ." Ephesians 5:23 

Every thing that God created have a head and so is the marriage , the head of the marriage is and has always been the man .The head is the leader ,ruler and decision maker every facet of leadership in a body .The man is highly esteemed as a leader who controls the affairs in a matrimonial home .Therefore ,there  must be room for submission in the heart of the woman for her head ,who is the man .

The word of God says " Wives ,submit yourselves unto your own husbands ,as unto the Lord ." Ephesians 5:22 To submit is to humbly accept the authority of the man who is her husband .He must also prove to be the head ,by knowing the way forward  in the the  Leadership  facet of the marriage .This means the man must show intelligence and integrity of character .

The husband takes decisions and releases visions ,dreams , and goals for the family .This can however happen  in an environment where  the wife is submissive and has really accepted the husband to be who God has ordained him to be the marriage ,that is the head ." Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing .." Ephesians 5:24 

Nowadays ,a lot of  marriages are collapsing because of no submission ; many wives do not submit to their husbands as the head. Many women would rather divorce their husbands than to submit to them because of pride .For those women who choose to be wife material ,they become submissive to their husbands ." But I would have you know the head of every man is Christ ; and the head of the woman is the man ,and the head of Christ is God ."1Corinhians 11:3