Marriage Counselling For Single Men Who Are Searching

Marriage Counselling For Single  Men 

" Give not thy strength to women, now thy ways to that which destroyeth Kings " Proverbs 31:3

General Counselling For those who are preparing to marry and those already married.

1. Never marry a woman you can not control; you will never be happy in the marriage. 

, 2.Don't marry a woman because she has money, or because she comes from a rich family. This will not be true love and you as a man will be dependent on the woman or her family. This can deprive you of the blessings of God. 

3. Do not marry a woman out of pity, because she is an orphan, or sick or deformed or has no helper. You have to marry a woman you have fallen in love with, who is a wife material so you can love ,care ,and honour her, otherwise you will abuse and multreat her ,insult her and call her names. 

4. Never use too much money to win a woman you want to marry. This is very important because, you can fall into the wrong hands, by marrying a gold digger who only love your money and not you. She can either divorce you when things get tough or even kill you for your property and money. 

5.Do not marry a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with your family members, but hates to see them around you. Such a woman will like to use you for her own advantage, so she sees your family members as a hindrance to that a gender. 

6. Never marry a woman, who is too much older than you; because when she grows older ,you will prefer a younger lady to her especially when by then you might feel very young. The best marriages that can last and withstand the test of time is when the man is older than the woman, eg .Abraham was older than Sarah his wife. 

7.If you want to marry a woman, try to approach her by yourself and personally propose to her ,don't use or send some one as a betweener to propose for you, because by approaching the lady yourself you will notice how humble she could be or how proud she could be. Besides the person you use to propose marriage, could be a future channel the enemy might use to attack your marriage. 

8.Do not propose to marry a lady the first time you met her, instead try to make friends, converse, or chat for a while with her. After some time you might know who she really is, then you can propose marriage to her .

9. Keep your relationship both spiritual and physical, spiritual means pray together, study the word of God together and if possible go to church fellowship together. 

Physical means, go out together to places of interest like malls, market, restaurants, amusement parks, excursions, visitations, programs etc. 

10. Don't use sex as a means of proofing that she loves you or that you love her. Having sex with someone you have not married is not a sign of love, it is fornication and it can lead to heart breaks, and open your relationship to satanic attack. Prostitutes have sex with people they don't love all the time, so sex is not a sign of love for the unmarried. 

11. Don't marry a woman you always quarrel and fight against. Although you fight and settle, yet it is not a sign of love, when especially you disagree in so many areas that breed strive between you and her .It is a sign you are not compatible with her, it could be a physical or spiritual reason. You have to marry a friend and not an enemy you always fight against. 

12.. Don't abuse or insult the woman you want to marry especially in public. And don't use her weakness to laugh at her or telling others about her weakness, because they will dissuade you from marrying her ,yet she could be a good wife notwithstanding her weakness. 

13. Do not marry a woman who wants to have a marriage ceremony more expensive than you could imagine or prefer. This is necessary because that is how she is going to treat the marriage as a whole, you will end up living above your means and become more frustrated in the marriage, because she can not settle down for anything less than how you started so big. 

15. Do not marry a woman who live an expensive life style than you can afford, when especially you are the one paying the cost of her expensive life style. Unless she is the one catering for such expenses .

16. Marry a woman who is ready to work and support your marriage in her own little way. This will ensure that you have a stable economy in your finances, because it is coming from both sides. So never stop the woman from working unless for maternity reasons beyond control, when child care becomes necessary. 

17.Do not marry a woman who dresses like a prostitute, because she might seduce other men to sleep with her or be unfaithful in marriage or else lead her to dress modestly the way you want it before you marry her. 

18.Do not assume full responsibility over a woman you have not married, like paying her school fees in full, renting an apartment for her, giving her capital for business. Because she might disappoint you and marry someone else after completing her school or after some time and you will feel more disappointed than ever. 

Instead if you have anything to do for her, use it to pay her bride price, then you can go ahead and take full responsibility over her. Many men have been disappointed and hurt because of this, you can however offer some help to her ,by giving her some gifts and money out of love.

19.Do not conclude that all women are bad ,because of your bad experience with the ladies, instead check your character, the way you handle them. 

20 . Never beat your spouse, you are not a man enough if you are used to beating your wife or your fiancee, instead you are a beast. 

21 . Never marry a woman who slaps you for one reason or another because she is angry, unless you wanted to rape her or force her to bed .

22.Do not expose your wealth, bank account balance, your properties ,family inheritance and everything you have to a lady you are still proposing to marry, because she might be a gold digger for all you know, and decides to marry you so she could take possession of your wealth. 

God Blessed The Marriage Couple

God Blessed Them 

" And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it : and have dominion over the fish of the sea , and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. " Genesis 1 : 28 

God blessed the marriage of Adam and Eve with the blessing of fruitfulness, multiplication and dominion. God said their union will bring fruits and that they will multiply and replenish the earth. Marriage is something that God holds in high esteem, because it is the first institution of God to the world. The union of the male and female is the work of God to bring growth and increase of human beings. 

The matrimonial home is assuredly blessed by God. The reason God will judge any one who stands against the marital institution. The word of God makes it clear that the marriage is highly honoured and blessed by God. " Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled : but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. " Hebrews 13 : 4 It is important that we hold marriage in high esteem, like the way God Almighty honours the matrimonial bed. 

God said the bed is undefiled, that is because it is purified by the blessings of God. When the man has sexual intercourse with the wife, it is described as the bed of marriage and it is purified and sanctified. It is good to get married, so you can enjoy the blessings of God in your life. The reality is that marriage can open doors of blessings in your business, finances, career etc. 

In Proverbs 18 : 22 the Scriptures affirms " Whoso findeth a wife ,findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. " This means the married man has more of God's favour that brings blessings than the unmarried man in most instances .

Married people enjoy more benefits from God and people, than the unmarried people. In order to attract God's favour it is good to get married, in order to avoid fornication and all forms of immoral activities. If you want to see the real blessings of God upon your life, if you are not married then get married. 

Then you will see how God will bless you and your spouse. The blessings that takes care of you ,your spouse, your children and some relative in your family. 

The Bride And The Bridegroom

" yet ye say Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously : yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. " Malachi 2 :14

The bride is surely made ready for the man, as soon as a dowry has been paid on her head, from that time she became the bride. The woman is now a bride of the man because a bride price has been paid on her head. That is when the woman is publicly introduced to friends and relatives as the bride of the man. That is the time every other man who might be a friend or had interest in her ,has to concede to the fact that ,the woman is now a married woman. 

Having become the bride of another man, who has already paid the bride price. During such times the ex-lover or former boy friend must know and accept the fact that the woman is now the wife of some one else. The bridegroom is also used to show that this is the man that has paid the bride price on the woman making her his bride. That is when the man assumes authority as the head over the woman and at the same time taking responsibility of the bride. 

The bridegroom is now given the physical and  spiritual oversight over the bride. At this juncture the woman's family, parents and relatives relinquished all their responsibilities over her life and hand it over to the bridegroom as they give her hand in marriage to him. The man is therefore seen as the proud owner of the bride and for that matter is said to be the bridegroom. 

The woman has to now honour the bridegroom with all his conjugal right as a husband in her life, having paid the necessary bride price and all matrimonial protocols observed. 

The life And Ministry of Evangelist Morris Cerullo, The Revivalist

Morris Cerullo (October 2, 1931 – July 10, 2020)

 was an American Pentecostal evangelist. He traveled extensively around the world for his ministry. He hosted Victory Today, a daily television program, and published more than 80 books.

  Evangelist Morris  Cerullo was born on  October 2nd , 1931 in Passaic, New Jersey, to an Italian father and a Russian Jewish mother. His parents died in an automobile accident when he was very young. He was raised in various orphanages, the last being an Orthodox Jewish orphanage in nearby Clifton, New Jersey. He converted to Christianity at age 14 with the guidance of a nurse in the Clifton, New Jersey, orphanage.

Soon after, Jewish orphanage directors restricted him from practicing certain matters of his new faith, so he ran away from the orphanage. He began preaching the gospel at the age of 16, after   seeing a vision from God, in which he witnessed people suffering torments in Hell. 

He attended and graduated from divinity school in New York state in 1953, and began ministering with the help of his then wife to be , Theresa.

In the early 1950s, he was ordained in the Assemblies of God Church. 

For many years Morris Cerullo conducted repeated "School of Ministry" in several countries like Mexico, Brazil, The Philippines, Korea, Zimbabwe, South Africa, Kenya, Nigeria, Indonesia, Netherlands and many others. During these "SOMs" one of the days of the conferences he would preach in an open air crusade, or a large theater or arena,

and lead people in a commitment to Jesus Christ and then would pray for healings to happen in the crowd.

 He would have the school of ministry students test the genuineness of the reports from the people's testimonies. After the large mass meetings he would charge the "SOM," School Of Ministry

, students to reach out to their countrymen with the same message being inspired by the results of the public rally. Cerullo often stated that not he, but Jesus Christ was the healer. He would encourage faith in, as he would say, "the written and the living word of God "

Morris  Cerullo still travelled as a missionary, and in the 2014 World Conference, he stated that God told him that "Prophets never retire!".In 2015, at the age of 83, Cerullo toured Africa for nine days, during which time he held meetings in six African countries, preaching, holding training sessions and meeting with political leaders.He died from complications of pneumonia

on July 11, 2020 at the age of 88.

One Man , One Wife

One Man, One Wife 

" A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife. .." 1 Timothy 3:2

It is well established fact that in the beginning God Almighty designed that marriage should be monogamous. So that each individual man should marry only one woman, likewise the woman should also marry one man at a time. That is why God created only one woman for the man to call his wife. 

Adam the first man to be marriage was a perfect example of marriage ,when he married one woman ; that is the wife God created for him. IF God wanted the idea of polygamous marriage, he would have created two or more women for Adam as wives. That is why we have to accept it that it is one man one wife that God created for the marriage plan.

This is the more reason why in the opening scripture we see the qualifications of a man of God is that he should be " the husband of one wife " . Because anything more is against the will of God for marriage. All God's prophet and anointed men of God in the bible had one wife, Isaiah had one wife, Ezekiel had one wife, and Joseph had one wife, Moses had one wife. Hosea had one wife, Peter had one wife, Zechariah had one wife. 

Jacob was the first to practically marry two wives, because it was not his intention to do so, he was a victim of Laban's trick to marry off his two daughters to one man. Jacob loved to marry Rachel, but by the time he served seven years to be used as a bride price, then Laban deceitfully married Leah to him without his knowledge and consent. 

So he could not love her, that is why he insisted on marrying Rachel his beloved wife, by serving additional seven years. ( Genesis 29:18-28) It is important that we should not follow the footsteps of those who did evil against God by marrying more than one wives. We need to accept the will of God in marriage, which is from the beginning, and it is one man, one wife . That is what makes one flesh ; " the two shall be one flesh " Matthew 19 :5

Those who prefer to marry more than one wives are not walking in the perfect will of God and it will spell doom for them at the end .There are so many complications in such polygamous marriages ; that is why it is important to enforce one man one wife principle marriage for all who want to enjoy marriage. 

Marital Responsibility

Marital Responsibility 

" Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband. " 1 Corinthians 7 :3

Responsibilities in marriage could be enormous, yet it is very imperative to keep those responsibilities in mind and make sure that we are dutifully observing them .This is what keep marriages going, when individual parties ( wife or husband ) always discharge his or her marital obligation. It is the wheel that keeps that marriage going, just as a flat tyre can stop the movement of a vehicle, if responsibility in marriage is neglected and never observed, it could affect the marriage. 

The wife must know her duties in marriage and rightfully do it as a responsibility, just as the husband also must know his duties and discharge them well. The wife is responsible for the home keeping in some cultures like Africa, while the husband is also responsible for providing all the financial and material needs of the family. The wife is expected to cook the food, while the husband is to provide the house keeping money for any expenses. 

The wife is expected to take care of the children's welfare; including their feeding ,dressing, home lessons, washing their clothes, taking them to and fro school, putting them to sleep etc. The husband is expected to pay their school fees and other monetary demands. However, in some western and European cultures, both parties are equally responsible for every thing in the marriage depending on who is available for the task at a particular point in time. 

One of the foremost responsibilities in marriage is to make sure you satisfy your spouse in bed all the time. Never withhold sex from your spouse, it is your most important responsibility in marriage. 

God' s Purpose of Marriage

The purpose of marriage. 

"And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit . And Wherefore one ? that he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife his youth " Malachi 2:15

The purpose of marriage is so clear in the Scriptures . So we are going to explore it gradually in this chapter. 

Companionship 

First and foremost purpose of the marriage is to keep the man company with the presence of the woman. " ...But for Adam there was not found an help meet for him ." Genesis 2:20 So the woman was meant to be a companion and a helper to the man in marriage. 

This means marriage is meant to bring help for both parties ; the man needs help from the woman likewise the woman needs help from the man,.The two are suppose to help each other in areas of vision, profession, career, religious faith etc. In this way they both achieve their goals in life. The prophet Malachi explains it better " Yet ye say ,Wherefore ?Because the Lord hath been  witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously ; yet is she thy companion and the wife of thy covenant. " Malachi 2:14 

Marriage is meant to provide friendship for both the man and the woman to flow together in love, affection and love. That is why your wife or husband has to be your best friend. You cannot marry and still have somebody as a best friend either than your spouse. So many marriages are broken because there is no companionship and friendship. 

Union Of Families 

Another purpose of the marriage is to unite people and families. The first union that God enjoys is the one between the man and the woman. " And did not he make one? " as the opening scripture explains, the oneness is unity ,between the male and the female that goes along way to unite the families of the man and woman. " And said, for this caused shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife : and they twain shall be one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. " Matthew 19 : 5-6 

Procreation 

Another strong purpose for marriage is for procreation, that is to enable fruitfulness of the human generation. In the beginning " God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he them. And God blessed them, and said unto them, be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it : and have dominion over the fowl o the air ,and over every living thing that move the upon the earth. " Genesis 1:27-28

Godliness 

The last and foremost purpose of marriage is to promote and establish godliness, holiness and righteousness. That is why Pual said " to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. " 1 Corinthians 7 : 2 It is very important for every body who wants to please God, to make sure he or she chooses to get married instead of committing fornication, sleeping with men or women you are not married to .This can lead you to hell fire ,instead get married, because of your fleshly desires.